Let’s turn down the heat just a tad, perhaps just a tad. I may be taking a chance in writing this one yet I took a chance in writing the first one where I asked myself if he’d catch me when I fell, which he did. I took a chance when I opened my heart again to love and the commencement of something beautiful unraveled. Then again, life wouldn’t be any fun if we didn’t take any chances.
From the time that we were young we were read fairy tale bedtime stories. Whether you’re man or woman. We were read something based on fiction. Parents never picked out things that were based on the true story of Joe shmoe. The fact of the matter is that they pick these fantasy and fictional stories to develop our brains creative strands. Yet somewhere along the line they forgot to start reading us things that were based on historical facts. Maybe along the way they should have switched over and thrown a couple of historical books or stories in with the fairy tales.
You’re probably asking right about now, ‘what is this chics theory?’ My theory is this. I’ve been read fairy tales all of my life. Even now if you ask me what my favorite books of all time are I’ll say ‘the epic tales of Harry Potter’. Hell, I’m still waiting for my acceptance letter to arrive by owl to wizarding school off in London and I’ll be able to leave all behind and go fight Voldemort. Anyways, the point is that we were fed these fairy tales for so long that when we hit the real world we were not properly or exactly armored for the reality of what actually might become. Love does not always happen as it did in Snow white, or Cinderella. Why didn’t somebody tell me that? I mean for the longest time I thought that if I just kept growing out my hair and only trimming it I’d be able to throw it out of my bedroom window and let my prince climb up it into my sleeping chambers. Do you get my drift? I mean nobody prepared us for the possibilities of what really may go down. Most of us have experienced heart ache at one point or another before finding our prince charming or princess.
I had to go through many things and many experiences before being able to sit back and let out a large sigh of happiness and relief because now I’ve found him. I dealt with a plethora of lies, dating all the way back to my first teenage boyfriend. I am not claiming to be the perfect girlfriend, yet in all honestly;
“I am good, but not an angel. I do sin, but I am not the devil. I am pretty, but not beautiful.
I have friends, but I am not the peacemaker. I am just a small girl in a big world trying to find someone to love.” – Marilyn Monroe
That is all that any of us can really hope for. To find someone to love and to love us just as much back. I said it before and I’ll say it again, I’m a hopeless romantic meets a realist so I never entirely gave up although I did go into a couple of, “I’m going on eharmony.com” spells in my past. All I can say is that it doesn’t matter how much heartache you’ve endured and how many tears you may have shed in the past and how many lies you’ve heard or even perhaps how many worthless hands have been laid on you, you can still find someone that will love you and appreciate you for who you are and you deserve to find someone. Especially when you least expect it. Don’t ever let anything in your past make you feel like you’re not worth the love of another person if you’re willing to give it back wholeheartedly without inhibitions. Although the entire story of our path to love may not have been exactly like cinderella’s we can still eventually find love and live ‘happily ever after’ whatever that means. You shouldn’t give up just because you ran into some ‘not so worthy’ men and women along the way. Those people that we ran into were there for a reason. They make you realize how special that one person that is so worth your time really is when you finally run into them. I can truly say this from experience. I’ve dated a lot of the jerks and now have found someone that I feel I can truly walk side by side with. And it feels sooo good! I only think of him two times a day, that is day and night. If that sounds super sappy to you it’s because you have not experienced it yet, but when you experience it you’ll know what I’m talking about. Sometimes I can’t help, but just let out an abundance of sighs because in all truth I really can’t do or say much else. Some things words just can not explain.
“Love is a smoke made with the fume of sighs.”
If you feel like you’ve given up don’t! Whoever has hurt you in the past or in the present is not worth you closing the doors to the possibility of love in your present or even in your future. Banish the pain and sufferings of your past or your present and open your arms and your heart to what may lie ahead for you.
I mean would you really want to spend the rest of your life sulking about how previous partners hurt you rather than fully enveloped in love?
“The greatest science in the world; in heaven and on earth; is love.” –Mother Theresa
With Love always from Miami,
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