You never get the flowers while you can still smell them

“You never get the flowers while you can still smell them.” -Kanye

Blog By: Angie R.

How can it be possible for one to look in the eyes of an individual and they be full of life. Then seconds later there be no life in them. How can something of this magnitude be so far out of our grasp for understanding?
I attempt to be polite at most times, and try to be humble. However if you seek me you shall find me. At any given time, in any given place the world is full of corruption yet I do believe there is good all around us. It is all around us and it is real. As much as we may not want to accept it, it is real. Many women for example trample all over one another. Instead of trying to join forces for a greater cause such as breast cancer. We should all try to compliment someone at least once a day. Alright so what if I’m on some ‘Mary Poppins type shyt’, I do not care, I’m being real. Many men too, are shooting, killing, often for reasons as minute as stepping on someone’s shoes. And what happened to the person on the other side of the gun? They were unsuspectingly escorted away into the unknown. The truth of the matter is as scary as it sounds that ‘No one can confidently say that he will still be living tomorrow.’ Quoted from Euripides who was one of three Greek tragedians alongside Sophocles.
When I was younger my aunt died. I had just recently seen her smile and the twinkle in her eye before I boarded a plane to go to our new home in Hawaii. Just weeks after our departure, she died in a car accident. She was only 29. Very few short months after I laughed with my sister then learned she had a terminal illness. She was only 5 months old. More recently a close relative was diagnosed with lymph node cancer. She spent time in the hospital and was released thinking ‘all is well’. She died this past weekend in her home on her death bed knowing that death was approaching. Surrounded by family at one point or another life within her was no more. She was only 60. What happened? Did it hurt? Did an angel come to seek her at the end of the tunnel with the white light? Did she feel a sense of euphoria?
I believe the scariest part of this phenomenon is that no one can understand it. No one can predict it and no one knows what it feels like. The true fact of the matter is that one can spend all of their life eating healthy, being healthy, exercising, studying, reading and just plain living strong. Then one day you can be escorted away into the unknown. The problem is that people just get so busy. They put things off for tomorrow. Like calling grandma, meeting up with a family member, catching up with that old friend. As I said this I dialed her number. Yep, because I owed her a long overdue return phone call. I often think to myself ‘I’m 25, I should at least have another 30 years left to live. Mathematically you think to yourself ‘your 70, I’m 30 who will go first?’ It’s almost as though every time an older person passes one is inching closer to the finish line. ‘Errrhhh!!!’ I don’t know that. One of my good friends just informed me that her 34 year old coworker was diagnosed with breast cancer. ‘Wow’, 34? What did I do? I went to the gym and put in double that work!

No one should drive themselves crazy constantly thinking about when the angel of death will come to escort them away into the unknown. My point is not that we are all going to die at an early age and we should coop up into the closet and wait for it. No, by all means no. My point is merely that we should live our lives to the fullest, and accomplish everything that we want to accomplish because we truly can not do it all over again. This is not the test run, no one comes in and says ‘cut, take 2’. As Henry Van Dyke said ‘some people are so afraid to die that they never begin to live.’ This should not be any of our cases for then life truly would be pointless. We should just try to live our lives to the best of our abilities and just respect how fragile life truly is. One moment its there and the next, for no apparent reason it can be wisped away.

Then I think of my cousin’s wife. She obviously was at peace with the fact that she was going to pass. Mark Twain stated ‘The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.’ Although I do believe that Mark Twain was heavily boasting and I strongly believe everyone in their lifetime at one point or another has thought of death in fear. Yet as my cousin’s wife laid in her death bed saying goodbye to her loved one’s did she at one point ever fear death? At the time of her death did she, as Mark Twain stated, feel that she had lived fully therefore was prepared for death? When my time comes, will I have accomplished everything that I dream to accomplish? Will I then and only then be fully at peace with the thought of death?


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